“I = Intention”
means defining and declaring an intention. Intention is
your plan, what is it that you are aiming to do, to
accomplish. This declaration can be made to others, but
more importantly it is made to ourselves. When I say that I
am going to honor my life and put myself first and part of
doing that is eating heather – I am making that declaration
to myself. No one outside of me will ever know that I made
that declaration to myself unless I tell them. Yet I know,
and if I follow through with it I feel good about myself,
and if I don’t then I beat myself up.
others of our intention may help us stay on track because it
can make us “accountable” and help us push towards our
goal. Telling others may also be how we use our family and
friends for support in reaching our goal. Yet personally
intention means to actively decide or to actively not
decide. For me when I am at the market and I pass by the
donuts I say to myself “not today girl, you will not get
them.” And other times I walk by the donuts and I say “go
back and get them because today you are eating them.” In
both instances, I set my intention.
a powerful step in choosing because it is internal. It
requires us to make a declaration to ourselves about what we
want for ourselves, what we will do about it, and if we will
share that information with anyone.
“J = Job”
is a job because it takes work. That work starts internally
(with setting your intention) and then becomes external –
the actions necessary to make the choice happen. When a
person chooses to go to school after the internal decision
they then must do the external work, register and then
attend. When we decide to make changes in our life that
internal decision now requires external work.
The job we
have to ourselves is just as important, if not more
important than the jobs we attend to support ourselves
financially. Because our internal work is important to our
quality of life. How good it feels to do a good job – to
know that we put in the work to accomplish what we set out
to accomplish. How successful we feel when we complete a
job. Yet the job of life – is on-going. We reach
accomplishments from the job along the way just as we have
set-backs, and through it all we know that both are normal
parts of life. In the job of life and in our job of getting
healthier we know there will be accomplishments and
set-backs. The most important thing we can do is to stay on
the job…keep working because we are worth it and the
greatest paycheck is our acceptance and love of ourselves.
“K = Key”
requires the key. Key is defined as the clarification to an
issue. When we make a choice we use the key to define the
issue, and to say how we will resolve it. When the doctor
says that I need to drink more water for health of my
kidneys I hear him. That is his medical diagnosis which he
gave to me. Now I get to do my own work. I decide if there
is a problem and if so how will I resolve it. I get to use
my key to clarify and decide how to resolve the issue. I
may decide that my kidneys are fine and I am not going to
follow his instructions, or I may decide to agree with him
and set my “intention” to drink more water.
Just as a
key in important to a door/lock in allowing entry – it is
important to us in allowing us to decide what we will work
on. When making a choice in your life, remember to use your
key because you alone get to decide what to open. Use the
key to determine what foods are best for you and what
exercise is best. Not everyone can go out and run five
miles, just as not everyone can lift 25 lbs. The key for my
friend is probably not the same key for me. Use your key
and clarify what is best for you.
"L= Loss & Living"
one of the hardest parts of making a choice is knowing that
in doing so we will lose
something. The very fact that
there is a choice means that it's always an "either-or"
situation. When I choose to drink water I am losing soda or
kool-aide. When I choose to eat healthy I am losing my
candy and chips. When I choose to live a healthier
lifestyle I am losing the behaviors I had while living
It may sound like it's a no
brainer....why wouldn't we choose to do something that is
better for us? Because loss is not easy, even if it is
better for us. Loss of something that you like and are
accustomed to is hard. Loss means work - work towards
change and doing something different.
choosing also means "Living" we are living when we are
actively making decisions and doing things in our lives. We
are not living by default - we are living by choice. We
choose to give up or lose something in order to gain
something else. We are living when we are engaging in our
lives. We are living when we say "Hey....I choose me
because I love me"
opens us up to make mistakes. A friend called me to say
that she was afraid to make a decision in her life because
she didn't trust herself. She said she was afraid of making
a mistake. Life includes making mistakes. We see mistakes
as a bad thing because the consequences can be difficult,
but mistakes are about learning. An example is when I first
went back to the gym I wanted to get in shape in one day.
Now as unrealistic as that is - in the moment I was
focused. I worked out my arms, my legs and did cardio. The
next day...and a few days to follow....I was beyond sore. I
think I actually sprung a muscle. My mistake was trying to
do too much too fast.
Mistakes open us up to criticism from
others which can be uncomfortable, especially when we are
talking about our weight and our unhealthy choices. Who
wants to hear "why are you eating that? I thought you were
trying to lose weight" or who wants to tell someone that
something they tried they shouldn't have? Mistakes. Our
goal is to remember that a mistake does not define us and
mistakes are normal. We all make them and as long as we
live we will continue to make them.
that feeling when your stomach is uneasy? You know when you
don't know if you should go right or left and internally you
are quivering? You know....when you get nervous about
making a choice? That's what choosing can do to us. It can
make us nervous. Partly because we are not guaranteed that
we are "doing
it right" or that we are making the "right" decision.
Choosing would be so much easier if we knew exactly how
things would turn out right? But we don't so we go through
being nervous. My level of nervousness intensifies when it's
a choice that either involves other people or that I know
other people know about.
decided to start working out with a personal trainer. I
declared to my family that I was doing it - I was getting in
shape. When they heard the cost they said "wow, you are
paying that to have someone watch you work out?" I had a
couple of friends say, "for that I will train you." I was
nervous about telling them my decision to workout with the
trainer because it made me accountable to my choice, and I
knew they would be watching me. I was nervous about working
out with the trainer. I was nervous because I made a
choice. I've learned that it's ok to be nervous and it's ok
to not know how things are going to turn out. Why? ...
Wait until you see the letter "T".
Choosing = Ownership &
you remember the feeling you had when you got your
first car, house, outfit you wanted badly, or
anything that you wanted and you finally got it?
It’s a feeling of ownership or success – it’s
yours. That’s what choosing is – ownership. I have
gone to my freezer and gotten myself an ice cream
sandwich and held it in my hand, knowing I shouldn’t
eat it, with a feeling of “it’s mines”. Ownership
in choices means it’s yours. Choosing to do things
that do not support us in our healthy journey is
just as important as choosing things that do support
us. At every given moment we have the ability to
choose because we have options.
Remember, we can become
successful one choice at a time.
Choosing = Possibilities &
possibilities are endless and having choices puts us
in line to reach for them or to create them.
Imagine that you are a chef and you can create
amazing dishes made from vegetables. You can mix
asparagus with green peas, some red and yellow bell
peppers, and a dash of lemon and have a meal that
makes your taste buds sing. Having endless
possibilities allows you to mix and match whatever
vegetables you choose to mix. Imagine that you can
walk the 1,655 steps of the Eiffel Tower or the
1,860 steps of the Empire State Building, that’s
Consider making yourself a
vision board with things you want to achieve or
obtain. I have a board and one of the things on it
is a picture of a woman in workout clothes with
weights in her hand and she’s fit. That’s my vision
for me and what I want to achieve. Seeing the
picture reminds me that it’s possible. And as I go
through the process of the ups and down to reach my
goal….I know that I must have patience. This is not
an overnight process it is a journey and the journey
is defined as seeking after or pursing something.
My personal quest is healthiness and healthy
habits. I am not there yet which is why my choices
are important. When I am focused and disciplined I
make choices that support me in my quest, but when I
am not my choices take me away from my goals. When
you look at the possibilities of what you want to
achieve or to obtain the next step is the quest –
it’s seeking after what you have identified.
The pursuit takes work it’s
about being active. How can we pursue good health?
What is possible for our bodies when we stop
drinking soda or eating sugary foods? What can
happen when we workout just 20-30 minutes a day?
These things are part of the quest when health is
what we are pursuing.